Wednesday, 6 July 2016

IWSG July: Wedding Panic

Hello everyone! It's time for another Insecure Writer's Support Group post - once a month, writers from around the internet get together to encourage and cheer each other on. This fantastic group was set up by Alex J. Cavanaugh - if you'd like to find out more or sign up, check out the official IWSG website.

I have a confession to make: I haven't done any writing since my last blog post. In all honesty, trying to learn a new job and organising a wedding has been taking up all of my time lately - I've barely had the time to stop and breathe, let alone write. Which although makes me a tiny bit sad, at the same time, I don't really mind because I know after my wedding/honeymoon I'll once again be free to write as much as I like at nights. And I. Can't. Wait.

I've already had several breakdowns over the wedding - if you think it's all made up about how a bride bursts into tears because some tiny insignificant detail isn't right, or she threw a hissy fit because the shoe shop where she ordered her shoes from didn't get them in the right size - trust me, it's all real. But it's probably not because the poor girl is a bridezilla - she's probably just extra stressed because of all of the extra demands being laid on her, and she doesn't know what she's doing but everyone is expecting her to be in control, and her mum won't stop talking about the wedding even though there are 1000 other things on her mind too. And don't even get me started on the cost of a wedding - despite trying to keep to a budget, somehow costs just keep spiralling (guys if you're wondering what job to do next, I seriously recommend starting up some kind of wedding company...).

But I digress - the main point of this point is to a) reassure everyone that I'm still alive, b) apologise to those of you who have been in touch lately but I haven't replied - I'm not ignoring you, I'm just trying to do 100 things at once and c) to let you guys know that although this post isn't about writing (again), I'm going to just be visiting blogs this week and trying to spread the writerly love/cheer. I seriously can't wait for this month to be over so I can get back to some kind of normality. On the plus side, I'm still thinking/dreaming about my characters amongst all the mayhem, so when August rolls around, I'll be able to dive straight back into writing once again.

Have you ever majorly stressed about your wedding? Or your writing? What are your writing insecurities this month?


  1. You're a busy bee, Rachel. It's a good job you've got a lot of stamina! Makes notes about all the stresses of planning your wedding. There has to be a future story in that!! Have a great month!

  2. I certainly stress about my writing. I've been engaged for twenty years without ever having gotten close to setting a wedding date, so I've never had any wedding stress, but if I were planning a wedding, I know I'd be completely stressed about it.

    Hang in there!!

  3. We eloped, no stress! But I'd have been a bridezilla for sure. Can't stand when what I want doesn't happen - no patience! :)
    Wishing peace and when you get the chance, Happy Writing!

  4. Hehehe, Wedding stress will get to you. My mom tried to help by hiring me a wedding planner. Yeah, the woman stopped responding and then refunded my mom a month before the date. We went through a scramble to find a venue (most were booked), a baker, and a florist in less than 30 days. Well, 10 years later, and I don't even remember the stress anymore, only the tears of joy in my husband's eyes and shoving cake up his nose. Best of luck!

  5. I stress about writing all the time, but if I didn't I'd be concerned about my mental state. I refused to stress about my wedding. I gave my family 30 days to put something together or I'd signed the papers without them and start my marriage without the wedding... I don't recommend that unless you've been building up to it for a few years, which I had.
    Hope it all works out. Even if it doesn't, once you say I do, all the stress will melt away.

  6. Those are all good reasons to be stressed. I am sending you lots of hugs and wishing you all the happiness in the world. Remember to enjoy the experience. Then again, I stress about everything, so maybe I'm the worst person to comment. Wishing you well.

  7. Congrats on the wedding. It will not go perfectly and if you accept this one thought you may cry less (or track me down...). I hoping you'll feel better. :-)

    Anna from elements of emaginette

  8. Balancing my freelance writing job doing well while losing personal writing time. Grateful for all the work but I'm going to have to set up a schedule to help gauge my time properly. Sorry for the stress but congrats on getting that hubby. Remember he comes with you on the honeymoon after the wedding and you both leave all the craziness behind.

  9. My 20th wedding anniversary is coming up, and your post reminded me of all the pre-wedding planning . . . agh. One of my in-laws told me she wouldn't come to the wedding unless I had the traditional Wedding March played (I hate that song because all I can hear is "here comes the bride, big, fat and wide" and all those horrible elementary school lyrics - but guess what, that's the song that played at my wedding). And, then the high heels that I didn't want to wear (my mom and three bridesmaids ganged up on me at the shoe store), and the flowers that became ostentatious (mom), the cake that wasn't iced in the right colors (day of, decided not to melt down with deep breathing), and the photographer who made racist comments about my family members (my husband sent her packing as politely as possible).
    However, on the bright side - my wedding dress, made by a friend of my mom's, was perfect - airy, light, and covering scar tissue on my arms without restricting arm movement; my cousin's band played three hours longer than expected and we danced until it was too dark to see; and best thing - I married the best man for me.
    Anyway, long story short - You can rock this wedding - no matter what crazy stuff happens before or during!
    Best wishes!

  10. Hello Rachel,
    I wish you calm, sanity, and fun on your wedding day. Remember, it's just a party, a fun celebration of your love shared by family & friends. It could end up all f*#@ed up and they'll all still love you. And you're collecting all kinds of material for your writing, especially if you write comedy. I had to plan my third wedding from thousands of miles away: we were living in Germany and planning a wedding in California. It all worked out fine, and we have fond memories of that weekend, but my fondest memories are of joy of bringing all those friends and family together. Honestly, my favorite recollection is of the hours spent playing guitars and singing around the camp fire the night before the wedding. After the wedding, I was pooped!

  11. I can only imagine the stresses you're feeling over your wedding right now—and all very justified! Good luck with everything, and here's hoping for some quiet writing time once everything settles down. Enjoy the moment! You only get married once (hopefully). ;)

  12. I did the Justice of the Peace thing and a party almost 27 years ago. It's not too late! But seriously, good luck and the key is to enjoy your wedding day. What will happen will happen and as long as you and your new hubbby say I do, the rest is cake. And now you can write wedding stuff into a story and make it turn out perfect or a nightmare - could be therapeutic. Deep breaths and enjoy

  13. Like Joanne, we also did the Justice of the Peace thing. That was at my wife's request. Sorry it's so stressful. I hope when the day arrives, you remember to enjoy it.

  14. Sometimes life does get in the way of writing! I am trying to come to terms with how often that's the case for me. But glad we did the next best thing to eloping--a home-made wedding in the parental back yard. Immediate family only. Not much to stress about. 22 years later, it's still working.

    Oh, yeah--I also stress a lot about not getting to enough blogs when I participate in hops!


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